My story of abuse began nearly 5 years ago. I met him at work. We became friends and later he moved in with me. He was a real charmer at first. Life with him became fast and exciting. Parties, dancing, drinking and then more drinking.
About 4 months in I started to see a different side of him. I wasn’t allowed to wear certain clothing, he always had a comment about what I was eating, the jealousy became too much to handle, and the name calling got worse, I always thought that an abusive relationship meant physical abuse and he never hit me. I was wrong. After 2 years, I finally found the courage to leave the toxic relationship.
Many victims of abuse feel they lack the appropriate support to enable them to positively alter their situation, but having finally taken steps to free myself from repeated ongoing abuse, I know it is possible!
My advice to others is don’t be afraid to ask for help, even if you have to swallow your pride. Although it may seem difficult, believe in yourself, don’t give up, and use the chance to change your destiny. Also know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Last year I met the most beautiful man – he is kind and gentle, and we connected straight away. I now realize what a healthy relationship entails, and what it’s like to be treated with respect. -Annie, WA